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Comment on Good Relationships – What Makes a Good Relationship by kelebogile

kelebogile — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 09:50:54 +0000

my partner and i never tell each other how much we love or miss, and we do not complement, flirt or do anything playful. do you think we are heading for disaster?

Comment on Introduction To My Relationship Advice Blog by Mae

Mae — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 13:11:40 +0000

My guy and I have been together for 3 years of that 3 he has been separated for 2 of the years and divorced for 1(they were split for about 6 months before I met him). They were in several business ventures together so they did not file for divorce until the ventures were settled. Yes, they are business partners. Yes, she knows about me and we are cordial with each other. They have a 10 year old daughter and the daughter adores me as I her. When its my guys turn to have his daughter, he picks her up and the first thing she wants to do is to come to my house and stay over so they do. My guy and I do not sleep together when his daughter is around. Business started getting bad and my guy started getting into real financial binds. I don’t have money, but I helped him out best I could (cooking for him to make sure he ate and occasionally giving him household stuff…i.e. if I got a 12 pack of paper towels or TP I would give him some from the pak. I must say, he has never asked me for anything. I even offered that he could give up his apartment and move in with me if he wanted to. He said no because he did not want to jeopardize our relationship and he had to maintain his independence.
Well, it started getting so bad for him….all the way around that his financials got worse (business and personal)…his ex-wife approached him and said that her mom (his ex-mom in-law) was more than willing to help him out – a loan….she’s loaded! First couple of times he said no and scraped it up elsewhere. Then he finally had to “borrow” from her. The ex mom-in-law is also responsible for her deceased daughter’s 2 kids – girl 12, boy 14. The boy is very rebellious and gets into trouble a lot. He has run away a couple of times. Well then the ex-wife and the ex-mom in law started calling my guy, all stressed out…they cant do anything with the boy. In the mean time my guys daughter starts having trouble in school….academic not behavioral. Now my guy is being pulled back into that situation in order to help out with the nephew and with his own daughter.
They were going to send the boy to live with another grandfather in another city so the ex mom-in law says to my guy, “if you go with me to take him, you wont have to pay back the money that you owe me”. Now get this, my guy is considering it. Here is another one, his daughter is off –track so she is out of school for a month. The ex wife tells him that they (the 2 of them) need to spend more time with the daughter as a family before she goes back to school. She has some business deals in the works so if they go through she will have the money. They want to take the daughter to Disneyland – Los Angeles area. (We all live in Northern California). He does not see anything wrong with it. I could not believe what I was hearing. He did not understand and said that I was being emotional when I said to him, “how do you think that makes me feel?’ “not to mention the mixed message and false hope that they are sending to the daughter that her parents are still together or are getting back together”. He says to me that he loves me, that he and his ex are not getting back together and that his daughter knows that it wont happen.

What should I do? I know he loves me and I love him. My concern is, is this the start of an agenda that the ex and her mom are putting together? What comes after this? What’s next?
Should I let it ride or should I just walk away now?
Am I being unreasonable?

Desperately Seeking Advice!

Comment on Relationship Counseling: Setting Up A Talk Session by Tshegofatso

Tshegofatso — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 18:38:43 +0000

His phone is of when im not around him and it happened before the mother of her child came back.They broke up last year around August,because he didn’t want her to go and work away from them.They were communicating then they stoped communicating.It happened again that he avoided me two weeks ago after that i tried to talk to him but he didn’t go much into details.He sad his ex called and demand that they should work things out because they didn’t break up it was just a distance relationship.And he don’t want to talk about it,he says he don’t want to hurt me and most of all he don’t want to lose me and his child.This whole thing is confusing me i don’t know what to do or say.Or maybe he didn’t be honest with me from the start,i just don’t know.

Comment on Relationship Counseling: Setting Up A Talk Session by Katie

Katie — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 00:28:22 +0000

Hey there!

You are not wrong for having those feelings. A lot of people in relationships especially relativley new ones are still trying to learn every aspect of the person they are dating so its natural to wonder these things, especially if they have had a child together.

You do have to realize that he is going to talk to the mother of his child for more than likely the rest of his life because they have a child together. That is going to be an important aspect of your relationship with him that you are going to have to “be okay” with. They may not “talk” alot but especially when the child is young they will need to discuss certain issues.

Now, I do have a question for you. How often is he “turning his phone off or having the battery die?”
Is it when you are around him or not around him?
Did this happen before the mother of his child came back to your area of town?

How long ago did your boyfriend and his ex breakup? Do you know why they did?
I think you also need to rely on your “gut” instincts. A women always can feel what the truth really is. Email me back at my website and I can help you out further.

Comment on Relationship Counseling: Setting Up A Talk Session by Tshegofatso

Tshegofatso — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 00:17:31 +0000

Hi! Im dating a loving caring guy,he has a three year old child outside.The problem is the mother of his child was working far from them and now she is back.She sometimes calls him to discuss their child issues.what hurts me most is he sometimes switch his phone off for no reason and says the battery was low.Im i wrong to suspect that when his phone is off it might be that his with the mother of his child.We fight a lot about his phone being off.Please help me, I LOVE him very much i dont want to lose him.What can i do to solve this?

Comment on Relationship Issues – The ‘Mars and Venus’ Relationship Issues by Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 28 May 2009 18:53:51 +0000

I love the “Mars/Venus” book — I read it quite some time ago and really got a lot out of it. Men and women just see the world differently — and that impacts relationships. There are all kinds of dating and relationship books out there that can help people with the all-important relationship side of life. One good one that’s out now is “Why I love Men: The Joys of Dating,” by J.J. Smith. She’s got tons of tips and ideas, not about “getting” someone, but more to help you build a wonderful life that attracts the best man for you. (She even has action plans to follow, which I think are pretty fun.) And she also has articles with dating tips, etc. for people to read.

Comment on Good Relationships – What Makes a Good Relationship by Couple Therapy

Couple Therapy — Sun, 24 May 2009 11:44:41 +0000

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