A Good Relationship

The foundations of a good relationship:

• Mutual attraction
• Good clear communication
• Emotional understanding
• Negotiation and compromise
• Clear boundaries
• Commitment
• Both partners comfortable with intimacy (sexual and otherwise)
• Both partners comfortable with any power differences

What are the things that attract people to each other in a good relationship?

There are many things which draw people together and can ultimately play a part in forming a good relationship. For example, the attraction may be based either on a similarity of personality or on the attraction of opposites. There are some people who value peace above excitement, while others would be bored without a few dramas in their lives.

In some of these situations, the exciting people attract each other, and the quiet people also attract each other. However, this doesn’t always lead to a good relationship because at times the combination of two exciting people would be too much for both of them: I have heard such couples describe their relationship as ‘World War III’.

Two very quiet people, on the other hand, might end up in a relationship that is too unexciting, and might crave some more stimulating experiences. The other side of the coin is the ‘union of opposites’, which many find to be more exciting and can be very satisfying when used to base a good relationship on, as long as each partner doesn’t expect the other to be a clone of themselves, and as long as they can tolerate the major differences that they usually encounter in each other.

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